With the newest version of the movie releasing this past weekend - it reminded me of all the boys I have "fell in love with" recently, and how boys ARE actually evolving but not necessarily for the good.
After three years of college under my belt, I have finally been able to weed out the unnecessary "Bros" who send that not-so-casual 1:38am text on a Wednesday night asking "What are you doing?" (...umm what do you think I'm doing...I'm sleeping...and NO-I do NOT want to come over, nice try though). I decided to go a different route. I fell for the guy who wasn't in a fraternity nor did he play a sport, and to be honest it was kind of a first for me. He wasn't my typical guy, and I liked that.
He was a nice enough guy, funny, ambitious, and was friends with all my friends -so it was perfect (or so I thought). The only thing was he had just gotten out of a 2-year-long relationship, and we started "hanging out" less then a week after the break-up. This should have been a red-flag, but I was falling way to hard to notice. Everything was fine and dandy until we had "the talk". We initially had decided we weren't going to get "too serious", but that went down the drain after sleeping together every night for 4 months straight. So we had the talk again - it was obvious to everyone but me that I was taking this more serious than he was.
He never went behind my back and cheated on me, but he did something equally as wrong -which made him differ from the typical "Bro". He led me on to believe we were something more than what we were, he let me fall harder, and became the type of guy that wanted to have his cake and eat it too, because- he LOVED the attention (and he still does). He wanted to be single, but didn't want to let me go, but GOD FORBID he made an actual real commitment to me (and by commitment - all I was asking for was to occasionally toss around the word "girlfriend"). Which I didn't think would be too hard, since we were exclusively with each other, but I was wrong. All of this was just "too much for him", and he eventually came up with lame excuses to end things, (such as that he wanted to be single his last semester of college, and I almost would have believed him, if it wasn't for the fact he started talking to a girl less than two weeks after we ended things---but that's a WHOLE other story).
These kinds of guys love the attention, and the drama. They always put themselves first, but sometimes in a non-obvious way. They move on from girl-to-girl discreetly. They're the guy who is with a girl for months or even years, and when they feel like the relationship is winding down, they'll start flirting with a new girl-who will ultimately become the new girl in their life when the current relationship ends, and then the process is repeated. They mimic the movements of locust. And yet for some reason they are the hardest to weed out. They seem like the good guy, but its because they have been out of the market for X-amount-of-months, that you don't even realize they DO jump from girl-to-girl, its just not on a weekly basis. They are the ones to watch out for, cause they'll hurt you more than any "bro" ever will.
Whats upsetting is that its becoming a re-occurrence between my friends and I. Its scary to think that more and more guys are evolving this way. They are figuring out that we'll say no to that 1:38am text, and are coming up with ways to get us to do what they want by winning over our feelings.
Now I do believe that not all guys do this on purpose, BUT it sure as hell seems like it happens way too often to not be done on purpose by some. It makes me wonder how many of the "good guys" are actual GOOD guys - and where can I find one???
But thats just Life As I Know It.
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